Checks and balances. We go through most of our lives trying to acquire stability, to get it right and to evolve.
My genius mother used to say, “Don’t forget, you are the company you keep, so choose your friends carefully”. “Umm okay well I’m 10 so my friends are kinda limited to whomever is in walking distance”.
Then as I got older I realized some other meanings to this very wise suggestion. So being the late bloomer that I am, I have most recently set out on a journey to conquer some things and change the vibrational level I’ve been residing on. When you change your address, you change your neighbors.
There is no getting around the truth and the truth is, we grow up surrounding ourselves with that which we know. It’s comfortable, familiar and nothing but a prevorbial brick wall. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone you argue with all the time? Is your spouse or best friend a heavy drinker but you don’t drink at all? Do you surround yourself with people that uplift you or deplete you?
I’ve spent a large portion of life in denial. Being the social butterfly found me in the company of other people with the same affiliations. There is nothing uplifting in staying out all night only to have to recover in bed all day. We were facilitators. We abandoned our values long enough to seek a higher consciousness. What goes up most come down.
When you engage in a false hope with people living the same erroneous existence, you are incarcerating yourself with a long list of liabilities. And the more impediments you add to the pile the deeper you go in the hole. Well if you want to get out of the hole. Stop digging.
Taking stock of your life isn’t easy but it is courageous. They say, when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Well isn’t it time you acted as a substitute while you await their arrival? We are always stronger than we think. We are always capable of miraculous feats and sometimes it takes some good old fashion isolation to get us where we need to go.
Twice now in my lifetime I have made tremendous recovery. I set out to change something in my lifestyle and in order to truly and unequivocally make the change I had to separate myself from all of what I know. I had to cleanse the patterns and habits out of my system. I spent a lot of time alone taking stock of my choices. Why was I making decisions in my life that left me feeling berated or depleted? Because it was all I knew.
Yes I am successful. I do very well. I am lucky for my career and not a day goes by that I don’t say thank you for my blessings. But if I’m this good I know I can be better. It’s time to surround myself implicitly with that which is uplifting. Time to rewrite my story. Exchange the liabilities for some valuables.
It’s time to acquire assets. The benefits will make us better people and what I realized was the truth in being the company you keep. I find myself surrounded by people with the same hopes, dreams and determination as me. There is solace in the mutual exchanges of energy. Walking away from someone with a smile on your face means you are being uplifted. Friendships are meant to be inspiring. Undeniable confidence is contagious. We’re not here to be better than each other we are here to be better together. Assets know that. Liabilities want to control you.
“Be the change you want to see in the world” (Mahatma Gandhi (1869 – 1948) ).
When you set your sights on being the best person you can be, you will find yourself surrounded by the same kinds of people. Trade in your liabilities for some uplifting assets and see where the wind takes you. Birds of a feather, flock together.
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