How young you feel really is up to you. So be you. Be ageless.
Wear what you want Do what makes you happy Be unique Don’t have regrets Be healthy Keep an attitude of gratitude
Be sexy Always look your best Know that you are like no other Say what you will Be true to your feelings Smile Be flirtatious And always always remember what Bob Dylan said… “I was older then, I’m much younger then that now”. Age really is just a state of mind, don’t you think?
Being the W Chaser finds me once again trying something new. It has me pushing my own envelope and venturing out of my comfort level. I’ve been getting some new insight. It’s time to prioritize what my needs are and know that settling is not an option. Hopefully you’re not settling either. Prerequisites are important, actions speak louder than words and you must not turn your back on the red flags.
Know that even if you think someone or something is what you want they may not be what you need. Be really clear and honest with yourself that you know the difference between the idea of someone or something and the reality of that someone or something.
It’s time to test the theories and attempt new experiments. It is within your innate nature after all to draw your own conclusions. What better time to try new things then when what you have been doing isn’t fulfilling anymore? You must find your faith. Faith will help you hold onto to the ideology that you are deserving. You must remember.
You were made for greatness. You were made for love. You were made to be happy. You were made to live up to your true potential and you were made to have self-respect. You were made to accomplish. You were made to falter. You were made to have flaws so embrace your flaws and make them your own. You were made to trip once in a while. You were made to have courage. You were made to shine. You were made to have integrity. You were made to have abundance. You were made to have faith in your own abilities and to make your own choices. You were made to be a creature unlike any other.
If there isn’t any intrigue then your attention won’t be kept. If you can’t be spontaneous then the future will be bleak. If there is no element of surprise then there is nothing but mediocrity. If there is lack of communication then there can be no foundation.
It’s okay if things don’t work out and you can’t be hard on yourself when they don’t. Life is about experiences and trying new things and meeting new people. You can’t let go of your dreams, but you do have to let go of things that are not uplifting you.
It’s up to you to change. It’s up to you to set your standards. It’s up to you to make choices. It’s up to you to know when you have lost your way. It’s up to you to find your way back. It’s up to you to love you unconditionally. It’s up to you to take the leap and know that if you do leap, the net will appear. When you are in your place of loving yourself with undeniable faith, that is when it is time to ask. And make no mistake, the world will give you what you ask of it. So be careful what you ask for.
It can be like a constant game of tug of war sometimes; the battle that you can have with yourself. It’s different for everyone and sometimes we win and sometimes we don’t. But I guess in the end, it’s not about winning or losing, it’s about finding the balance within you.
How do you quiet the disparaging voices? Where do you look to find your peace? Can you really debrain-wash yourself and stop the crusade?
Being on the proverbial rollar-coaster can threaten to get the best of you. Just when you think you have conquered a pattern it rears it’s ugly head and takes you spinning around another bend. It doesn’t matter how aware you are of this particular annoyance, it has a mind of it’s own while you are left wandering how you could have submersed yourself in the madness again.
I guess in order to come out of the battle unscathed it’s worth a try. Maybe you should try to relinquish the control, stop being so hard on yourself and know that it’s all part of the process. Every lesson learned chisels away at the pattern. For every moment of self forgiveness brings you closer to freedom. For every bit of awareness brings out more self discovery.
Conquering your patterns is a process and the process is broken down into the many lessons you are supposed to learn from each one. Perhaps once you get through all the lessons attached to any given pattern is when you will stop fighting.
Just be honest with yourself. Go easy. Be lenient. Be okay with not being perfect. Embrace the stumbles. Brush yourself off when you fall and know that while some things don’t work out it opens you up to new and better things. Don’t sit around second guessing what others are doing, or planning, or what you wish they would do or plan. Know that your life is about you and the way to live in your life is to find your balance. Let go of your expectations. Let go of the outcome. Know that everything happens for a reason and that all your deliberate maneuvering will inevitably lead to happiness if you trust in it.
Don’t go to war. Be peaceful. There is no joy in battling. And when you battle yourself there can be no winner.
Do you know that who you are can be told by what you say about other people? That never having anything nice to say about people reflects on you? That talking bad behind peoples back is a reflection of your self-worth?
Life found me, once upon a time, guilty of this ugly behavior. In my defense, my very low self-esteem blinded me in a cloak of jealousy and admiration. In retrospect the realization that I never had anything nice to say about anyone breaks my heart. Now that I find myself living above the low vibrational level it is even more evident to me when other people engage in this sort of unfortunate behavior. But realization is half the battle and years of growth and determination to fall in love with myself has lifted the veil of negativity.
The best assets you can acquire can only come from self-love. It’s called the gifts of affirmation, complimenting and praise. Love each other and be playful. Because here’s a little secret. When you speak ill of others no one listening is impressed. You are not making yourself look smarter, or better, or impressive in anyway. What you are doing essentially is actually making a fool of yourself but no one will (well except the rare exception) actually call you out and tell you to give it a rest.
You want to have integrity, respect, and love not just for yourself but for everyone around you. And the way to do that is rise above the vibrational level of negativity, name calling and verbally offensive slander. Are any of us really that perfect that we can put ourselves on a proverbial pedestal tall enough to bash someone else? How many times do you need to be told that if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all?
You don’t want to be known as that person do you? Think of something nice to say about everyone. The more you practice complimenting the easier it gets and chances are you will eventually realize people are just people just like you.
Do you know how many times in a day it is said that the average adult laughs? Fifteen. Do you know how many times in a day it is said that the average child laughs? Three hundred!
Have you ever been in the presence of a laughing child? It is impossible to keep from laughing. A child’s laugh is as contagious as a sneeze and it can leave your face tingling, your breath heavy and you doubled over grabbing your sides in hysterics.
Laughter really is an important innate feature that can be used to relieve stress, lighten a mood and change a gloomy disposition. Think of it as a gift. When life is getting the best of you, laughter can soften the blow and when we laugh we are opening ourselves up to new possibilities of freedom and bliss.
When driving to work the other morning I found myself missing a friend who is away traveling. The sadness caught me by surprise and found me starting to slump in my drivers seat. But as soon as I realized what was happening, I immediately forced myself to think of a good memory and I automatically smiled. Once I realized I was smiling it made me giggle and that in turn sent a full fledged laugh from my heart. I’ve said it before and I insist on saying it again, “laughter is a smile that bursts!” And once I started laughing I was able to keep laughing and I instantly felt better. And at that very moment I realized that I had pulled up to a red light and a guy in a car next to me was looking at me like I was crazy. But he was laughing. Which actually made me laugh a little harder and in the interim I silently grasped the power that a laugh can do for me and those around me.
The laughter made me instantly happy and my laughter made a stranger laugh and gave him a story for how his day started with a laugh. When the stress of your day-to-day gets too much for you, take time to play and find the laughter. Find something that makes you happy, reminds you of your childhood, or just plain ole makes you joyful. We can lift ourselves out of most circumstances with the powerful nature of an unconditional laugh.
You might want to find a quiet place to experience your laughter, but I suggest that you laugh in front of others! Try it. Just start laughing on purpose and see how many people you can get to laugh with you. Eventually you will all be laughing and you won’t even know what your laughing about.
When was the last time you had a gut grabbing, tear spilling, ribs hurting, burst out laughing kind of laugh?
Love is one of the most powerful emotions we can feel. It can change the course of a day, a life, and can even cure illness. Unconditional love can uplift you out of the darkest of corners and can actually help you live longer.
Expressing loving emotions is hard for some people. If you didn’t grow up being verbally coddled then there is a very strong chance that you are unable to communicate loving emotions. But on the bright side, everyone has a love language (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/) and there are so many different ways to show that you love someone that there is always going to be someone who speaks your language.
My language happens to be words of affirmation, which is extremely fitting considering, a) I am a writer and b) I was neglected so there wasn’t any verbal affection and/or encouragement. The funny part about this though is while I am extremely verbally loving I find myself as an adult connecting with people that are unable to fulfill my love language. Another epiphany of overcoming a pattern that was instilled in me as a child. Thank God awareness is half the battle!
I was able to find my own love deep within me by the man who helped saved my life when I was a teenager. One of my favorite all time authors, Og Mandino, wrote The Greatest Salesman in the World. It is a great little story that leads to 10 ancient scrolls of success. Over the years, I’ve spent many hours with these scrolls. Reading them 3 times a day for 30 days each until the messages were embedded in my subconscious and new patterns were born.
My most important lesson was the importance of greeting each day with love in your heart and with this approach love has found me many times over. In this I am lucky. I choose to love. It’s not always reciprocated by the intended recipient but that doesn’t matter. Love spreads far and wide and comes back to us in so many ways. Love is everywhere, in everything if we open our eyes, minds and hearts to it. Love makes us unstoppable and encourages life.
We should shower everyone, everything and ourselves with love at all times. Love is powerful but humble. Love is vibrant and uplifting. Love is truth and humility. Love can open the hearts of those around us. Love can set us free.
And like The Beatles told us, All you need is love!
Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love. There's nothing you can do that can't be done. Nothing you can sing that can't be sung. Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game It's easy. There's nothing you can make that can't be made. No one you can save that can't be saved. Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time - It's easy.
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I also share with you here some more love… the scroll marked II from The Greatest Salesman in the World…
I will greet this day with love in my heart.
For this is the greatest secret of success in all ventures. Muscle can split a shield and even destroy life but only the unseen power of love can open the hearts of men and until I master this art I will remain no more than a peddler in the market place. I will make love my greatest weapon and none on whom I call can defend against its force.
My reasoning they may counter; my speech they may distrust; my apparel they may disapprove; my face they may reject; and even my bargains may cause them suspicion; yet my love will melt all hearts liken to the sun whose rays soften the coldest clay.
I will greet this day with love in my heart.
And how will I do this? Henceforth will I look on all things with love and I will be born again. I will love the sun for it warms my bones; yet I will love the rain for it cleanses my spirit. I will love the light for it shows me the way; yet I will love the darkness for it shows me the stars. I will welcome happiness for it enlarges my heart; yet I will endure sadness for it opens my soul. I will acknowledge rewards for they are my due; yet I will welcome obstacles for they are my challenge.
I will greet this day with love in my heart.
And how will I speak? I will laud mine enemies and they will become friends; I will encourage my friends and they will become brothers. Always will I dig for reasons to applaud; never will I scratch for excuses to gossip. When I am tempted to criticize I will bite my tongue; when I am moved to praise I will shout from the roofs.
Is it not so that birds, the wind, the sea and all nature speaks with the music of praise for their creator? Cannot I speak with the same music to his children? Henceforth will I remember this secret and it will change my life.
I will greet this day with love in my heart.And how will I act? I will love all manners of men for each has qualities to be admired even though they be hidden. With love I will tear down the wall of suspicion and hate which they have built round their hearts and in its place will I build bridges so that my love may enter their souls.
I will love the ambitious for they can inspire me; I will love the failures for they can teach me. I will love the kings for they are but human; I will love the meek for they are divine. I will love the rich for they are yet lonely; I will love the poor for they are so many. I will love the young for the faith they hold; I will love the old for the wisdom they share. I will love the beautiful for their eyes of sadness; I will love the ugly for their souls of peace.
I will greet this day with love in my heart.
But how will I react to the actions of others? With love. For just as love is my weapon to open the hearts of men, love is also my shield to repulse the arrows of hate and the spears of anger. Adversity and discouragement will beat against my new shield and become as the softest of rains. My shield will protect me in the market place and sustain me when I am alone. It will uplift me in moments of despair yet it will calm me in time of exultation. It will become stronger and more protective with use until one day I will cast aside and walk unencumbered among all manners of men and, when I do, my name will be raised high on the pyramid of life.
I will greet this day with love in my heart.
And how will I confront each whom I meet? In only one way. In silence and to myself I will address him and say I Love You. Though spoken in silence these words will shine in my eyes, unwrinkle my brow, bring a smile to my lips, and echo in my voice; and his heart will be opened. And who is there who will say nay to my goods when his hearts feels my love?
I will greet this day with love in my heart.
And most of all I will love myself. For when I do I will zealously inspect all things which enter my body, my mind, my soul, and my heart. Never will I overindulge the requests of my flesh; rather I will cherish my body with cleanliness and moderation. Never will I allow my mind to be attracted to evil and despair, rather I will uplift it with the knowledge and wisdom of the ages. Never will I allow my soul to become complacent and satisfied, rather I will feed it with meditation and prayer. Never will I
allow my heart to become small and bitter, rather I will share it and it will grow and warm the earth.
I will greet this day with love in my heart. Henceforth will I love all mankind. From this moment all hate is let from my veins for I have not time to hate, only time to love. From this moment I take the first step required to become a man among men. With love I will increase my sales a hundred-fold and become a great salesman. If I have no other qualities I can succeed with love alone. Without it I will fail though I possess all the knowledge and skills of the world.
I will greet this day with love, and I will succeed.
Have you ever heard the saying, “Don’t tell me what you’re going to do. Tell me what you’ve done”. Well if you haven’t you should write it on a wall or a mirror or on the forehead of the person you speak to the most.
There are some people that actually say what they are going to do and they do it. Every time, plain and simple. Awesome! There are also people who say they are going to do things and whose intentions may be pure in the moment, but life happens and they may not be able to follow through as promised. Then there are those people that for whatever reason feel the need to make false promises, constantly say what they are going to do and never do it and tend to be extremely wishy washy.
Even the latter may not realize what they are doing but the truth of the matter is, be careful. Look at this list and figure out who you are. If you are not the first type mentioned I would take a good long look at yourself and figure out a way to overcome the pattern.
If you surround yourself by people that tell you they are going to do things, even the simple things, and then they don’t do it, what will happen is, you will subconsciously stop trusting them. No one wants to submerse themselves in here-say. Speculative promises that go unfulfilled leave doubt in it’s wake.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not talking about sharing with your friends that you are pursuing some grand endeavor and you confide in them while you are in pursuit. I am talking about the little things that add up and will eventually equal loss of trust.
If you say you’re going to call, call. If you say you’re going to be somewhere, be there. If you say you’re going to do something, do it.
If you find yourself for whatever reason not being able to follow through with a promise, gesture, or intention, tell the person. Be brave and face the truth. No one is going to like you any less because you aren’t able to deliver. But people will stop trusting you and you will alienate people if you don’t adhere to what you say.
Remember, words have power. Your integrity resides not just in your words but in the actions that follow… After-all, actions do speak louder than words. Don’t you think?
Life will give you what you ask of it, plain and simple. What you have to remember is that you are constantly putting off thought waves that help shape what happens to you. What you dwell on really does become that which you manifest.
You must remember some things when trying to pursue the art of creation.
There is importance in being specific. You must be very clear in your intention. If you know your what, the how will take care of itself. Always look ahead, don’t dwell on what lay behind you. Be willing and open to adjust accordingly. Welcome change. Honor defeat. Learn from your mistakes. Stay out of your head. Be careful of people that aren’t supportive of your dreams. Choose to see the best in people. Listen to your life and trust your intuition. Be honest with people and yourself. Don’t be afraid to make a fool of yourself. Know that your feelings may get hurt along the way but time heals all wounds. Remember that people have their own distractions and it doesn’t mean they care any less. People can only love us as much as they love themselves. Don’t have regrets. Embrace the possibility of the future being everything you want it to be. The world will give you what you ask of it so be careful what you ask for. Remember to treat others as you would like to be treated. Use communication and honesty to relieve any chance of misunderstanding or pain in others. Remember people have feelings and feelings are fragile and are to be treated like precious cargo. What you put out really is what you get back. No one can let you down if you don’t allow them to hold you up. Choose love. Be kind. Be honest. Be trustworthy. Be truthful. Be sincere. Be mindful. Be open. Choose happiness. Always say what you mean. Don’t lie! Be impeccable with your word. Don’t make assumptions. Always do your best. Don’t take anything personal. Have empathy. Feel the fear and do it anyway. It really is true that everything you ever needed to know you learned in Kindergarten.
When you take care of yourself you are more apt to be careful with others feelings. When you are honest you are more apt to be surrounded by people who can be trusted. When you put yourself out there you create a giving and carefree spirit. It is important that you keep your integrity at all times. Know that even when you stumble there is dignity in brushing yourself off and trying again.
